How many work perks can your marriage stand?

The unintended consequence of all the free meals, happy hours and activities that employers provide can mean employees' social life may revolve around work.

The Wall Street Journal's work/life consultant, Sue Shellenbarger, says that's tough on romantic partners. Some workers bring partners to company events and introduce them to their co-workers. Partners might like a few such outings, but rarely enjoy the constant work talk. Partners may even be seen by others as interfering during these work-related functions.

The resulting tensions on marriages and relationships can be more difficult to resolve than disputes over long work hours.

About 21 percent of employers offer on-site fitness centers, 22 percent provide drinks and snacks, and 48 percent offer community-service volunteer programs, according to a survey by the Society for Human Resource Managers.

In her work as a career coach, Shellenbarger advises clients to pay attention to the impact of job-related social programs on spouses and partners. She advises turning down events that risk damaging off-work bonds.

Stay-at-home moms and spouses who work from home, can become jealous of the constant social life involved with their spouse's work. After all, the at-home spouse might be dying to get out of the house.